TONIA SMITH & JONATHAN SEAGULL

About Your Relationship Profile

This report analyzes the personalities of both individuals to assess their compatibility. It also offers suggestions for ways to mitigate the stress or damage that can come from differing personalities and perspectives.

When you are in a relationship, you come to know each other more deeply over time. At first friction is rare. As time goes by and you discover additional sides to your partner, you become aware of personality traits you appreciate as well as some that rub you the wrong way. Even if you consider your relationship nearly perfect, you will experience occasional bouts of conflict.

Negative traits are almost always a cause of friction, but it is interesting to note that some qualities that are considered positive can also be incompatible. You may find this report is more critical or even harsh compared to other readings of this type. My approach is designed to throw light on differences in your chart that might benefit from a frank, unbiased examination. Ignoring potential issues can cause more damage overall than a few honest remarks in a reading.

You will probably encounter some texts that state: "The compatibility aspect in this area of the chart is already included in other parts of this report." Those texts are not repeated here because they are either redundant or offset by other conditions. This is done to offer a perspective that is as well balanced and clear as possible; repeating certain traits would place too much emphasis on them.

Tonia and Jonathan, I hope you will appreciate the perspective of your Compatibility Report and will find it beneficial to your relationship.

Please note we use gender-neutral language when addressing individuals in our relationship readings. To some, using the singular "they," "them," and "their" may sound awkward, but we believe words matter. We aspire to include everyone.

Please verify that the name and date of birth showing below are accurate.

THE LIFE PATH

Your Life Path number is considered the single most significant information available in your Personality Chart. It is derived from the total of all numbers found in your date of birth. However, it is important to keep in mind that the aspects described in the next few chapters will either complement, supplement, or sometimes weaken the attributes revealed in numbers derived from your name.

Tonia, your Life Path number is 7

You are the searcher and the seeker of the truth. You have a clear and compelling sense of yourself as a spiritual being. As a result, your life path is devoted to investigations into the unknown and finding the answers to the mysteries of life. You are well-equipped to handle your task. You possess a fine mind; you are an analytical thinker, capable of great concentration and theoretical insight. You enjoy research and putting the pieces of an intellectual puzzle together. Once you have enough pieces in place, you are capable of highly creative insight and practical solutions to problems.

You enjoy your solitude and prefer to work alone. You need time to contemplate your ideas without the intrusion of other people's thoughts. You are a lone wolf, a person who lives by his own ideas and methods. As a result, close associations are difficult for you to form and keep, especially marriage. You need your space and privacy, which, when violated, can cause you great frustration and irritation.

When your life is balanced, however, you are both charming and attractive. You can be the life of a party and enjoy performing before an audience. You enjoy displaying your wit and knowledge, which makes you attractive to others, especially the opposite sex. But you have distinct limits. While you are generous in social situations, sharing your attention and energy freely, you are keenly aware of the need to "come off stage" and return to the solitude of your lair. You associate peace with the unobtrusive privacy of your world. Therefore, intimacy is difficult for you, because you guard your inner world like a mother lion does her cubs.

All this privacy and aloneness can cause isolation and loneliness, however. You can be aware of emptiness in your life, a part of you that yearns for company and close companionship that may be unsatisfied. If isolation is brought to the extreme, you can become cynical and suspicious. You can develop hidden, selfish motives, which people may sense and may cause them discomfort around you.

You must guard against becoming too withdrawn and independent, thus shutting out the love of others and keeping you from experiencing the true joy of friendship and close companionship.

You must especially watch out for selfishness and egocentricity, thinking of yourself as the center of the universe, the only person who really matters. Social contact gives perspective on yourself and on life, while too much isolation can make you too narrow and even shut off from the rest of the world. Secretly, you may feel jealous of the easy relationships formed by others; you may perceive others as less inhibited than you, or freer to express themselves. You may harshly criticize yourself for not being more gregarious, powerful, or capable of greater leadership.

Your challenge in life is to maintain your independence without feeling isolated or ineffectual. You must hold fast to your unique view on the world, while at the same time being open to others and the knowledge they have to offer. With your abilities to learn, analyze, seek out answers to life's important questions, you have the potential for enormous growth and success in life. By the time you reach middle age, you will radiate refinement and wisdom.

Pythagoras loved the seven for its great spiritual potential.

Jonathan, your Life Path number is 7

Jonathan, your Life Path is also a 7; the same as Tonia’s

How Your Life Path Numbers Compare

Your Life Path number is the most important influence in your chart. As such, their compatibility is very important to the well being of your relationship.

Tonia and Jonathan, your Life Path Compatibility is 7 and 7

Tonia and Jonathan, yours is a beautiful combination, with enormous potential for spiritual growth. You both appreciate life and life's mysteries deeply. You have a strong intellectual and spiritual bond and thrive on each other's intellect and wisdom.

The relationship between the 7 and 7 may begin in the heart, but it quickly moves to the inner realms. The term "soul mates" applies to couples that share the 7 in this part of the chart. Poets at heart - even if you have never written a poem in your life - you intuitively recognize that your bond with each other is "spiritual" in nature and more valuable than anything else in your lives. You grow together, without the need to constantly be together. You probably communicate in half sentences and often find yourself thinking or expressing the same thing your partner just said.

If your relationship is moving toward maturity, you are likely to be "joined at the hip." That said, there are also things to watch for to avoid spoiling such a beautiful relationship. No other number can, at times, become as stubborn and unforgiving (even in small matters). In extreme cases, the 7 can become small-minded, even neurotic. While rare, a tendency to allow a minor issue to become a major disagreement does exist. What is interesting is, critical issues rarely cause the same reaction; the 7 is too intelligent to be petty. But the same person who can lead a study group with insight and the ability to communicate even the most arcane concepts, can turn into a hair splitter when it comes to seemingly minor household issues.

Tonia and Jonathan, there is one issue you should be particularly aware of, as it has the potential to destroy this otherwise excellent combination. You both enjoy a highly imaginative inner life. Therefore, you need time alone for study, contemplation, or just to let your mind wander. When your living space is too small, or you lead hectic lives continually surrounded by others (even each other) your need for quiet personal space will begin to take precedence over everything else. It is common for people with a 7 in this part of the chart to leave a promising career, relationship, or family due to this inner need.

It is important that you both find a way to honor this and create an environment where you can have time alone. If you become aware of underlying tension building, talk to your partner, and discuss solutions. Recognize your common need to share your life and ideas while maintaining your individuality and need for personal time.

THE EXPRESSION

Your Expression number, calculated from your full name at birth, reveals the orientation or goal of your life. Some numerologists refer to this as your Destiny number because it represents a lifelong target at which you are aiming. Thus, the Expression number, to some extent, reveals the person you aim to be.

Your Expression is the most influential of the three characteristics that make up who you are. It is also the number with the most influence on your choice of career, although other aspects are important as well.

Tonia, your Expression is 4

You are the bedrock of society, the foundation of any enterprise. You are an organizer and manager. Your approach to life and to problems is methodical and systematic. You are a builder and a doer. You turn dreams into reality. You possess a highly developed sense of structure. You enjoy management systems and can carry out your well laid plans. You are not the type to embark on any trip without a map.

You take your obligations and those of your family quite seriously. As a result, you are reliable and responsible. You enjoy seeing a project through from start to finish but can become too narrowly focused. You put your nose to the grindstone and tend to become a workaholic.

You are driven by contempt for all that is unstable, insecure, and unpredictable. You distrust the unconventional, preferring instead the tried-and-the-true. But this can make your endeavors move slowly and cause you much frustration, especially with the apparent limitations of your resources.

At the same time, concern for the limitations of your resources causes you to be careful and cautious, shutting you out from possible shortcuts and creative solutions provided by more daring people around you. It is important that you recognize restrictions for what they are: guiding forces that are testing and directing you toward your goals. Your challenge is to be more imaginative and to attract more creative people into your life who can advise and inspire you.

In relationships, you tend to be somewhat moralistic. You are extremely honest and sincere. You have integrity and are trustworthy but can also be rigid and stubborn. Don't let your strong likes and dislikes overrule your common sense and compassion. Be more understanding of others' shortcomings.

Because you tend to focus on details, you can fall into a rut and become a little dull and overly serious. Often, people born with the 4 Expression need to lighten up and have more fun. You have a keen eye for detail. You have great stamina and can work conscientiously and persistently toward your goals. This eventually brings you success and standing in your community.

In your conservative and careful way, you are good with money. You are very conscious of the balance between income and expenditures. You can limit your expenditures; saving money is important to you.

You are a surprisingly good parent, and love to be involved with children. Somehow, you relate a little more than others to the innocence of children, perhaps seeing a good deal of yourself in them. You, too, are idealistic and respect the simplicity of children.

Many accountants, bookkeepers, government officials, managers, and lawyers are born under the 4 Expression. You can be attracted to the arts and music but will likely bring your love of structure and order to any artistic field. Classical music and opera are particularly appealing and inspiring for you.

Jonathan, your Expression is 4

Jonathan, your Expression is also a 4; the same as Tonia’s

How Your Expression Numbers Compare

More than any other number in your chart, your Expression number reflects who you are as a whole person on a deep level (rather than the "face" you show to the world, described by your Personality number).

It cannot be over-emphasized how important it is to recognize that the same number in a different area of your chart will affect you differently. There may be times you read something that seems to directly contradict an earlier statement. Yet, if you take time to carefully think about the opposing information you might recognize that, being the complex individual you are, you carry the same contradictions. This is natural and true for all of us. You may excel at organization in one area of your life, while chaos rules in another. You may be tactful and sensitive in one setting, but direct and confrontational in another.

Be aware that it is more difficult to overcome negative traits you recognize in yourself when they are found in this part of the chart, than when they are found under the Life Path description.

Tonia and Jonathan, your Expression Compatibility is 4 and 4

Tonia and Jonathan, you both have a 4 in this part of the chart, indicating a relationship that is either very compatible or extremely stressful. Your lifestyle preferences are likely remarkably similar, and you both prefer a certain amount of predictability and routine in your lives. This does not mean you do not enjoy a surprise on occasion, but you generally want your daily routine to be firmly established and uninterrupted.

The success of your relationship relies largely on how compatible your daily routines are. Details are important because you both tend to become irritated when your carefully established schedules are disturbed. It is important that you respect each other's needs and habits. Even if other numbers in your respective charts point to a certain amount of flexibility and adaptability, you probably tend to create environments that are finely tuned and designed to accommodate your daily physical, mental and spiritual needs.

Unless your habits are compatible, it will be difficult for you to sustain this relationship without making a few adjustments (other than the necessary give-and-take of any relationship). Neither of you should severely limit your needs or desires to accommodate the other as it will only work in the short term; try to arrange a somewhat separate routine instead. It is better to give each other room than to force things that are uncomfortable, creating minor annoyances that can turn into growing sources of resentment.


Tonia and Jonathan, you are both reliable, dependable people who honor your promises. Being able to count on each other is a powerful ally in your relationship. However, if taken too far, your grounded, practical nature can also create a rigid lifestyle that could lead to frustration and gradual alienation from friends and family members. Lacking tolerance and acceptance of other people's lifestyles can put a stranglehold on your social life and, indirectly, a strain on your relationship. Your keywords for a successful, rewarding relationship are tolerance and flexibility.

THE HEART'S DESIRE (A.K.A. SOUL URGE)

The Expression number described above points to a more productive side of your life. Your Heart's Desire, also called Soul Urge number, reflects a deeper, inner you; it suggests an underlying urge, your true motivation, and the general intention behind many of your actions. It reveals the environment and lifestyle you prefer, as well as your likes, dislikes, and the type of people you are drawn to. Consequently, it dramatically influences the choices you make in life.

It makes sense that the vowels of your name are the foundation for your Heart's Desire. Vowels are the peaks and valleys of a language. Notice how vowels leave your mouth in a free-flowing breath. Try it: Aaaa.... Eeee.... Oooo.. Consonants though, are cut off either at the beginning or in the end.

You might say that it is in the flow of your breath that you express your deeper self.

Tonia, your Heart's Desire number is 4

You like to live a stable, well organized life. You dislike sudden changes. You prefer orderliness in all things. You have a systematic mind that is reflected in everything you do. You can establish and maintain a routine. You are exacting with details and quite thorough. You like to carefully analyze a problem and then tackle it in a logical and practical approach. You want to be dependable, a rock of strength and an example of discipline for others.

Work is central to your life, but you may tend to overdo it; you can easily become a workaholic if you're not careful. You have a great deal of energy and can accomplish a lot.

You want a family and you are a good parent. You may carry the discipline and the need for orderliness too far, especially in your family, making children and spouse feel oppressed and limited. Flexibility is your key to harmony and balance in life. For you, structure is more important than freedom, which you tend to interpret as chaos. But others do not have your need for well-defined systems, in fact, they may feel deeply inhibited and uncomfortable with it. The peace you get from orderliness may represent a prison to someone else.

You need and want much love, but you are not very demonstrative. You can be a little rigid and stubborn.

You are honest and unpretentious. You detest liars and affectations. You can be very determined and tenacious. You are the bedrock of any enterprise. You have the courage to go into the nitty gritty of a problem and come up with a solution. Try not to lose sight of the larger picture and dream while you plumb the depths of the bottom line.

Jonathan, your Heart's Desire number is 5

Freedom is essential for your happiness. You love change, new experiences, meeting new people, adventure and travel. You love the exotic, faraway places. Variety is more than mere spice of life -- you thrive on it. You are extremely flexible and adaptable. You have more curiosity than the proverbial cat. You have a sharp mind and a natural ability with words. You are a born communicator, clear, fluent, and imaginative in every area that interests you -- which are many!

Your Heart's Desire makes you very well equipped for life. Change -- the only constant in life -- doesn't threaten you, as it does other people. You are highly resourceful. Generally, you can think clearly in a crisis; you have good mental and physical reflexes. Whenever you fall, you tend to land on your feet.

You are highly enthusiastic. You get excited easily over a new idea or opportunity. Your nature is unconventional. You are a bit of a gambler, taking risks whenever you think the rewards are worth it.

You are very socially oriented and rarely, if ever, dull or boring. You are, of course, drawn to those people who, like yourself, are original thinkers and have exciting personalities.

You enjoy being involved in several projects at the same time. You need continual stimulation by the new and fascinating. You tend to discard boring pastimes quickly. Your love of freedom and change can have numerous consequences. You can be irresponsible, especially when it comes to finishing tasks. You have a hard time persevering at a given project and bringing it to completion.

You must be careful that your love of sensory pleasure doesn't lead you to excessive indulgence in alcohol, food, sex, and even drugs.

You are a bit of a hero and want to save the world. This causes you to make promises you often cannot keep. Down deep, you long to please everyone, an impossible goal. Many 5s can be emotionally superficial. They feel love passionately, but fear making deep and lasting commitments. As a result, they resist the depths of emotional attachments and remain on the surface where it is safe.

You will experience many changes and unusual events, but you learn best through experience. Therefore, your life will be full, and you will make great strides in personal growth.

How Your Heart's Desire Numbers Compare

Compatibility of the Heart's Desire number is very important in a relationship. Few relationships last beyond the initial stage if these numbers are not harmonious.

Tonia and Jonathan, your Heart's Desire Compatibility is 4 and 5

Tonia and Jonathan, yours is a challenging combination. Tonia likes routine and predictability, while Jonathan prefers change and the unexpected. The numbers 4 and 5 are opposites in many ways. Interestingly, this is often the root of the initial attraction. Tonia (the 4) is drawn to Jonathan's daring, adventurous, dynamic, and energetic life. Jonathan admires the control and discipline Tonia displays.

This combination often creates a dynamic relationship - comparable to a roller coaster ride. Due to these extreme differences, your relationship will require mutual love and acceptance that is strong enough to weather your differing likes and dislikes, including your lifestyle preferences. Trying to change your partner is futile - your needs and desires are simply too different. Tonia must accept the fact that Jonathan is not predictable and will never be happy living a highly structured life. Jonathan needs to make peace with Tonia's need for an organized and controlled environment.

Differences will be noticed in other areas as well. Jonathan is sensual and feels comfortable around others. They are social and have an adventurous side (even a wild streak). Tonia can be social but prefers to keep a certain amount of distance. When choosing company, they are probably more discriminating and tends to hold on to protocol longer. Although as a rule Tonia is more conventional and careful, they can reveal an extroverted, even outrageous side given the right occasion.

When it comes to opinions, often you may find yourselves on opposing sides. Tonia needs a somewhat structured connection to life, even its spiritual side. Jonathan's inner world is more imaginative and changeable. Tonia may be willing to accept rules and regulations that Jonathan enjoys breaking. These examples should not be taken too literally; you are complex individuals with additional influences in other areas of your chart that could modify these aspects. Suffice it to say you will encounter differences in your personalities and your approaches to many issues.

Interestingly, this combination can be powerful, exciting, and long lasting. The key to success will be in not taking yourself or your concepts too seriously - something Tonia may need to work on. Maintain a sense of humor and keep in mind that opinions are just that, with relative values. Focus on enjoying each other's company; combine your strengths and build on your differences.

Your polarity has the potential to create a dynamic, rewarding relationship. With tolerance and openness, you can build a healthy relationship where Jonathan's dynamic, adventurous spirit and Tonia's discipline and methodical approach happily live side-by-side.

THE PERSONALITY

The consonants of your full name at birth are the foundation of your Personality number, which is a little like a narrow entrance hall to the great room that is your true nature. It's the outer layer of your personality, the part you feel comfortable sharing. With time and trust, you invite others into the deeper aspects of your nature.

Your Personality number serves as a censoring device in terms of what you send out, as well as whom and what you allow to approach. For this reason, your Personality is usually narrower and more protective in its definition than the real you. It also gives an indication of how others perceive you.

Tonia, your Personality number is 9

You have an impressive and aristocratic bearing. No matter how tall you are, you appear noble and upright. You are very much in control of the image you send out to others. Many actors, dancers, and other performers have a 9 Personality Number.

You are elegant, graceful, and charismatic. Many admire you. You have the kind of stature that pulls people to you or repels them intensely. Some are jealous of you and may seek to belittle you. You may encourage this to some extent by the amount of arrogance you radiate. This is a caution for all 9 Personalities -- they are sometimes aloof and hold themselves above the world. Your challenge is to come down to earth with your fellow man.

Conversely, you have a great compassion for humanity and want to dedicate yourself to improving the lot of others. You are better when dealing with the trials of the many than the trouble of a single person. You are more capable of working on the grand scale, addressing the needs of society, than on a one-to-one basis.

You are kind and sympathetic, helpful and compassionate. Behind the controlled and calm facade, you are sensitive, vulnerable and emotional.

You have excellent taste. There is a good deal of artistic talent in you that shows in your home environment and your clothing. You tend to see yourself as a guardian of society, a benevolent leader, guiding and directing your community toward a better world.

Jonathan, your Personality number is 8

You appear strong and powerful. You have an impressive personality and can influence and even intimidate through sheer force. You have natural authority. Your competence and enthusiasm attract people with resources. You radiate confidence. People defer to you because they sense your sureness and effectiveness. You also exude a kind of controlled benevolence. People sense that you are generous, once you are convinced of the worthiness of the cause.

It is important for you to dress well. You radiate a kind of raw power and able-ness which needs to be refined and enhanced by your clothing. You may even dress a bit flashy, but that will not harm you. Quality is among your highest priorities and should reflect in your clothing. Although most eights have a strong constitution, they can be prone to indigestion, ulcers, and heart disease due to their reckless eating and drinking habits and their propensity to be workaholics.

Your Achilles heel is your capacity for an egocentric attitude. The negative side of your personality can cause you to be ruthless, greedy, and intensely lonely. Conversely, you can be spontaneous and excited. You are essentially warm and jovial. In your heart of hearts, you want everyone to be as excited and as happy as you. Those who are around you often sense this. Your coworkers and employees usually like you.

How Your Personality Numbers Compare

Your Personality is the first aspect people notice when you first meet. Very few relationships have a chance to progress if their Personality numbers are not compatible.

Tonia and Jonathan, your Personality Compatibility is 9 and 8

Tonia and Jonathan, this part of the chart reveals two numbers at opposite ends of the spectrum. The 8 and 9 have almost nothing in common and are not considered compatible, yet they are often strongly attracted to each other. Interestingly, this attraction can remain compelling and fresh for many years because there is always something new to discover in each other.

A go-getter with big dreams and expectations, Jonathan (the 8) has a good chance to turn many of those dreams into reality because they are highly motivated and willing to put forth enormous effort to reach a goal. It is the nature of the 8 to direct energy toward accumulating wealth and power, so for Jonathan, this is natural and healthy.

Tonia is equally focused but driven by completely different priorities and motives. The 9 in their chart is motivated by the work itself and the way it affects the lives of others, rather than financial gain or material success. The 9 will rarely find happiness or achieve success if motivated by worldly desires; Tonia finds personal reward when driven by humanitarian motives.

Obviously, your priorities are as different as night and day, yet both are as they should be. You will often find yourselves at opposite sides of a discussion and will rarely agree when it comes to practical matters. For a happy relationship, you will both need to recognize and respect your differences. If you take each other for granted or begin to feel you can predict and control your partner, your relationship will be in trouble. The keyword in this relationship is respect. If you respect each other, disagreements - of which there will probably be many - will not weaken your foundation.

MATURITY NUMBER

Your Maturity number indicates an underlying wish or desire that gradually surfaces at around age 30 to 35. A direction begins to emerge as you gain a better understanding of yourself. With this self-knowledge comes a greater awareness of who you are, and the direction you want to set for your life.

Tonia, your Maturity number is 2

As you mature, you will discover that you possess a growing talent for understanding and working with other people. Your ability to influence others through tact and diplomacy will grow. These talents will further you along in your career or business. You will become increasingly shrewd and will learn the art of discrimination. Your sensitivity to the needs and desires of others improves dramatically. You will be able to evaluate their motivations with a growing clarity and uncanny accuracy.

You find you can get more done by persuasion and gentle guidance than by force. You may well have to learn to assume the role as the power behind the throne. Your influence is less public, and you may not always receive the public recognition you deserve. However, your satisfaction comes from seeing the fruition of your own ideas come about, the result of teamwork and cooperative efforts.

If you already have many 2s in your chart, especially in the core numbers, you may become overly sensitive, a characteristic you will have to keep in check. If you have few 2s in your chart, the influence of your Maturity Number will greatly increase your ability to work harmoniously with other people.

Jonathan, your Maturity number is 2

Jonathan, your Maturity is also a 2; the same as Tonia’s

How Your Maturity Numbers Compare

Your Maturity number becomes more dominant with age. The texts below become increasingly important after about age 40.

Tonia and Jonathan, your Maturity Compatibility is 2 and 2

This aspect of the chart tells us both of you have a sensitive, vulnerable side. Sometimes this is favorable, but it can prevent issues from being resolved. There may be occasions when you step around issues too carefully, concerned about hurting the other. This can cause issues to fester and erode the foundation of your relationship. Try not to walk away from problems because you do not want to rock the boat. It is almost always better to face them head on. Although your concern about your partner's feelings are sincere, you should both guard against avoiding confrontation altogether.

As two people who experience emotions deeply, you are likely more vulnerable to criticism than others. This is another contributing factor in your tendency to avoid taking on important issues. If this type of avoidance persists, especially if unresolved issues have festered, you might lash out with a "below-the-belt" criticism, expressing your anger in a way that can be harmful to your relationship. This in turn makes it much more difficult to resolve underlying problems.

We all look for things we have in common, with the hope it will enhance our relationship. But the fact that you both carry a 2 in this area of the chart does not necessarily translate into an advantage. On the positive side, you easily relate to each other's emotional experiences. On the negative, your ability to commiserate can mean you are unable to "talk your partner down" during a highly emotional event.

Tonia and Jonathan, your numbers suggest you both have the potential to use the occasional trivial lie to circumvent what you perceive as dangerous territory. This is not always a bad thing. However, unless other numbers in your chart support your ability to confront things directly when simple tact and diplomacy are not sufficient, you may end up creating distance without meaning to. Without open communication, you live in separate worlds. If you have the type of relationship where partners live their own life quite happily, this will not be as much of a concern. However, the fact that you are both people of the heart makes that scenario unlikely.

The key to maintaining a healthy relationship when both partners carry a 2 in this part of the chart is to recognize the need for scheduled heart-to-hearts. When an issue arises discuss it openly and frankly; try to avoid impulsive, dramatic discussions. Instead, let your partner know something is bothering you and ask for a good time to discuss it. Create a setting: make a cup of tea, sit in comfortable surroundings, and begin by confirming your love and commitment. Combining respect, care, and direct, honest communication can help you form a deep, long-lasting relationship.