JOHN DOE & EMILY BROWN
About Your Relationship Profile
This report analyzes the personalities of both individuals to assess their compatibility. It also offers suggestions for ways to mitigate the stress or damage that can come from differing personalities and perspectives.
When you are in a relationship, you come to know each other more deeply over time. At first friction is rare. As time goes by and you discover additional sides to your partner, you become aware of personality traits you appreciate as well as some that rub you the wrong way. Even if you consider your relationship nearly perfect, you will experience occasional bouts of conflict.
Negative traits are almost always a cause of friction, but it is interesting to note that some qualities that are considered positive can also be incompatible. You may find this report is more critical or even harsh compared to other readings of this type. My approach is designed to throw light on differences in your chart that might benefit from a frank, unbiased examination. Ignoring potential issues can cause more damage overall than a few honest remarks in a reading.
You will probably encounter some texts that state: "The compatibility aspect in this area of the chart is already included in other parts of this report." Those texts are not repeated here because they are either redundant or offset by other conditions. This is done to offer a perspective that is as well balanced and clear as possible; repeating certain traits would place too much emphasis on them.
John and Emily, I hope you will appreciate the perspective of your Compatibility Report and will find it beneficial to your relationship.
Please note we use gender-neutral language when addressing individuals in our relationship readings. To some, using the singular "they," "them," and "their" may sound awkward, but we believe words matter. We aspire to include everyone.
Please verify that the name and date of birth showing below are accurate.
Your Life Path number is considered the single most significant information available in your Personality Chart. It is derived from the total of all numbers found in your date of birth. However, it is important to keep in mind that the aspects described in the next few chapters will either complement, supplement, or sometimes weaken the attributes revealed in numbers derived from your name.
John, your Life Path number is 1
John, you are a born leader. You insist on your right to make up your own mind; you demand freedom of thought and action. You are driven and determent. You don't let anything, or anyone stand in your way once you are committed to your goal. You assume the responsibility to be the protector and provider for those you love. You demand respect and attention and become irritated and even domineering when important things do not go your way. You need to feel in command of important undertakings and resist supportive roles. You seek the forefront and the limelight. You are concerned with your status and foster the appearance of success and self-satisfaction. The need to appear well off propels you to strive for growth, success and the finer things of life.
You are exceptionally creative and original and possess a touch of the unusual. Your approach to problems is unique and you have the courage to wander from the beaten path. You can be impatient with your shortcomings and those of others.
You should watch out for selfishness, conceit and the over-concern with appearance. You must guard against overzealous behavior, anger and aggressiveness. If these qualities are not brought under control you could become excessively domineering, vindictive and even violent. You perform best when you are left to your own devices. Ideally you should own your own business and be your own boss. Hold fast to your life's dream and work with the determination you possess to realize it.
You can become overly stressed by your driven nature. Be careful about the food you eat and maintain an exercise program you enjoy. Competition sports are often a healthy outlet for a person with your drive, particularly sports involving running and swimming. Don't let pride and overconfidence be your masters. Remember, your talents and abilities are a gift from a higher source, which should promote gratitude and humility, rather than pride and conceit.
More often than not a person with a 1 Life Path will achieve much in life as long as the drive, creativity, originality and pioneering spirit are fully employed!
Emily, your Life Path number is 1
Emily, your Life Path is also a 1; the same as John’s
Your Life Path number is the most important influence in your chart. As such, their compatibility is very important to the well being of your relationship.
John and Emily, your Life Path Compatibility is 1 and 1
John and Emily, you make up a challenging and rare combination. Although most couples continue to look for things they have in common, in your case this might not always translate into an advantage. Yours is a relationship of extremes, with powerful feelings and sometimes almost uncontrollable urges to confront each other.
You are both headstrong, competitive people who do not like to play second fiddle. You are unlikely to surrender your accustomed place at the top even to someone to whom you are attracted. When both people have a 1 in this area of the chart, there may not be much room left for attraction. Your competitive natures are likely to interfere with a giving, cooperative relationship. Your reading suggests you both feel the need to be "king of the mountain" and like two bulls, will butt heads to gain the upper hand.
However, when two people with dynamic drives can set aside their competitive natures (due to a mutually powerful attraction) the relationship can be promising and exciting.
With this combination it is important to look for compatible aspects in your charts to understand where complementary traits can positively support your relationship.
If your relationship has existed for some time, you have obviously found ways to get around the challenges of your two equally strong and individualistic personalities. If the relationship is relatively new, you will both need to accept taking second place (occasionally) and become practiced in humility and sensitivity.
Try to keep verbal arguments from escalating. Both of you are capable of confrontation when the need arises, and you carry the potential for aggression. Work on taking a breath, stepping back, and thinking twice before saying something you might later regret.
Your Expression number, calculated from your full name at birth, reveals the orientation or goal of your life. Some numerologists refer to this as your Destiny number because it represents a lifelong target at which you are aiming. Thus, the Expression number, to some extent, reveals the person you aim to be.
Your Expression is the most influential of the three characteristics that make up who you are. It is also the number with the most influence on your choice of career, although other aspects are important as well.
John, your Expression is 8
You have the power and potential to achieve great things. It is both your challenge and your birthright to gain dominion over a small part of the earth. Whatever your enterprise, you strive to be the best and most successful in your field. You are highly competitive and will not rest until you are satisfied that you have bypassed the opposition. You enjoy challenges and rivalry. You are a realist and a visionary planner.
Money and authority are available to you if you are willing to discipline yourself -- generally an inborn talent -- and persevere in the face of the considerable obstacles in your path. You are dynamic and have a talent for efficiency. You understand the larger picture, see the broader challenges, and know how to marshal your collective resources to address the problems. You delegate responsibility well; it is best for you to leave many of the details to others.
You are a great leader of people and an outstanding judge of character. You are demanding of those who work for you, often putting things in no uncertain terms: do it my way or don't do it at all! At the same time, you don't hesitate to reward the faithful and hardworking employee. You are not a particularly tolerant leader; too much tolerance violates your sense of efficiency. You go directly after your goal with courage and tenacity.
You have a natural understanding of money, authority, and power. You are able to struggle consistently after your goal. Eventually power falls to you. Within you lies an innate balance between the higher and lower characteristics of man. Your challenge in life is to balance your higher ideals and your understanding of the hard realities of the earth.
Much effort will have to be put out and many ups and downs experienced before you reach the level of success you desire. Life will probably test you many times with obstacles that seem insurmountable. But in reality, these are merely opportunities for you to learn how to use power and authority in the face of difficulties, and to find out just how much power lies within you. It is crucial for your success that you balance the material and the spiritual. You have chosen a path that requires balance between giving and taking, reward and punishment, action and reaction. Despite the obstacles on your path, you are a true survivor.
When focused exclusively on your desire for results and success, you can become stubborn and intolerant; you can be driven by excessive ambition, causing you to be exacting and without perspective. Be careful of your alcohol consumption, a danger-zone for you. You can be a social drinker, mixing business with pleasure -- a dangerous cocktail.
An excellent manager, organizer and administrator you have talents in many areas of life. Entrepreneurs, executives, bankers, brokers, negotiators, gamblers, coaches, collectors, heads of institutions, builders, art dealers, manufacturers, promoters, military officers, police detectives, smugglers, engineers, pilots or sea captains.
You have been entrusted with special gifts, the use or abuse of which has an immediate and often physical effect upon you and those around you! Use these gifts for the good of mankind and accept your own good fortune with gratitude. This is your rewarding stage in your evolution.
Emily, your Expression is 4
You are the bedrock of society, the foundation of any enterprise. You are an organizer and manager. Your approach to life and to problems is methodical and systematic. You are a builder and a doer. You turn dreams into reality. You possess a highly developed sense of structure. You enjoy management systems and can carry out your well laid plans. You are not the type to embark on any trip without a map.
You take your obligations and those of your family quite seriously. As a result, you are reliable and responsible. You enjoy seeing a project through from start to finish but can become too narrowly focused. You put your nose to the grindstone and tend to become a workaholic.
You are driven by contempt for all that is unstable, insecure, and unpredictable. You distrust the unconventional, preferring instead the tried-and-the-true. But this can make your endeavors move slowly and cause you much frustration, especially with the apparent limitations of your resources.
At the same time, concern for the limitations of your resources causes you to be careful and cautious, shutting you out from possible shortcuts and creative solutions provided by more daring people around you. It is important that you recognize restrictions for what they are: guiding forces that are testing and directing you toward your goals. Your challenge is to be more imaginative and to attract more creative people into your life who can advise and inspire you.
In relationships, you tend to be somewhat moralistic. You are extremely honest and sincere. You have integrity and are trustworthy but can also be rigid and stubborn. Don't let your strong likes and dislikes overrule your common sense and compassion. Be more understanding of others' shortcomings.
Because you tend to focus on details, you can fall into a rut and become a little dull and overly serious. Often, people born with the 4 Expression need to lighten up and have more fun. You have a keen eye for detail. You have great stamina and can work conscientiously and persistently toward your goals. This eventually brings you success and standing in your community.
In your conservative and careful way, you are good with money. You are very conscious of the balance between income and expenditures. You can limit your expenditures; saving money is important to you.
You are a surprisingly good parent, and love to be involved with children. Somehow, you relate a little more than others to the innocence of children, perhaps seeing a good deal of yourself in them. You, too, are idealistic and respect the simplicity of children.
Many accountants, bookkeepers, government officials, managers, and lawyers are born under the 4 Expression. You can be attracted to the arts and music but will likely bring your love of structure and order to any artistic field. Classical music and opera are particularly appealing and inspiring for you.
More than any other number in your chart, your Expression number reflects who you are as a whole person on a deep level (rather than the "face" you show to the world, described by your Personality number).
It cannot be over-emphasized how important it is to recognize that the same number in a different area of your chart will affect you differently. There may be times you read something that seems to directly contradict an earlier statement. Yet, if you take time to carefully think about the opposing information you might recognize that, being the complex individual you are, you carry the same contradictions. This is natural and true for all of us. You may excel at organization in one area of your life, while chaos rules in another. You may be tactful and sensitive in one setting, but direct and confrontational in another.
Be aware that it is more difficult to overcome negative traits you recognize in yourself when they are found in this part of the chart, than when they are found under the Life Path description.
John and Emily, your Expression Compatibility is 8 and 4
This is an excellent combination of numbers for romance as well as business. The 4 and the 8 are like the gears of an engine. They connect perfectly and increase one another's power. By joining forces, they triple or quadruple their output. This is considered the best blend of archetypes for a business partnership. Emily (the 4) delivers the persistence, determination, dependability, and methodical approach required to reach a set goal, while John (the 8) brings the vision and conviction that no dream is unattainable.
Fortunately, a similar synergy exists for romance as well. Although the 4 and 8 are different in many ways, they respect and recognize each other's value. Together, they create an environment of love, trust, and deep spiritual bonding.
John and Emily, although this aspect of your chart reveals an almost perfect combination, dangers do exist as they do in any combination. At some point, John will likely try something that Emily finds outrageous and doomed to fail. John's stubborn determination and, at times, authoritarian approach could become a major irritant to Emily.
Emily, if (when) that happens, the best approach is simply to disengage. Communicate your ideas, but do not try too hard to persuade John to give up a plan or a goal they believe in. Alternately, John will sometimes feel Emily is a stick in the mud who does not dare try something new. In this situation, John should recognize this does not signify a lack of courage on Emily's part, but simply that they prefer not to waste time or take risks on something that does not feel realistic. In these situations, feelings of frustration could overshadow the love and respect that is the foundation of your relationship.
Although rare, it is not unheard of for this combination to survive several major breakups and reconciliations, even divorce and re-marriage. All partnerships must compromise, and this is particularly true for your relationship. Sometimes, Emily, even when you know a project is doomed to fail, it might be worthwhile to support it. And John, your idea may be valid, but when your partner (or others) express serious doubts about it, you may want to consider that they may be right and examine whether pursuing it is the smart thing to do.
The Expression number described above points to a more productive side of your life. Your Heart's Desire, also called Soul Urge number, reflects a deeper, inner you; it suggests an underlying urge, your true motivation, and the general intention behind many of your actions. It reveals the environment and lifestyle you prefer, as well as your likes, dislikes, and the type of people you are drawn to. Consequently, it dramatically influences the choices you make in life.
It makes sense that the vowels of your name are the foundation for your Heart's Desire. Vowels are the peaks and valleys of a language. Notice how vowels leave your mouth in a free-flowing breath. Try it: Aaaa.... Eeee.... Oooo.. Consonants though, are cut off either at the beginning or in the end.
You might say that it is in the flow of your breath that you express your deeper self.
John, your Heart's Desire number is 8
You want success in its fullest meaning: wealth, power, and material comforts. You have an enormous ambition. You dream of big projects, great undertakings, and rewards. You are a visionary. You see the horizon and the promise.
In general, you also see the methods necessary to fulfill that promise. But you are not especially good with details; you need others to help you deal with the smaller parts of the picture.
Your challenge is to make full use of the full spectrum of your abilities, as indicated by your other core numbers. In the same way, you must bring forth the best from others and orchestrate their talents toward the realization of your vision. In short, you must lead by example, demonstrating the standard for commitment, determination, and excellence.
All of this requires effort on your part. You will meet with obstacles and difficulties. Your determination and commitment will be tested. But you have the power to overcome every obstacle you face and accomplish the goal you've set for yourself.
Your task in life is to learn to use power in refined and elevated ways. The expression and use of power are directly related to one's personal evolution. The more primitive uses of power rest with violence and the threat of deprivation. The higher expressions depend upon your capacity to care for and nourish the people and projects in your charge, giving each exactly what is needed at the appropriate time and in appropriate amounts.
You have a creative mind and an unusual approach to business and problem-solving. You need to cultivate your ability to evaluate others. It is essential for you to be involved in a project that challenges you and offers the potential for rewards. When you are uninvolved or unoccupied with a worthwhile task, you can become deeply despondent, depressed, and frustrated. You are the perfect example of the old platitude, "Idle hands are the devil's workshop."
Without a challenge, you can lose balance in life and become selfish, cruel, and even self-destructive. Disappointments become shattering, causing terrible consequences in self-image and self-love. Perspective is everything for you. You have a natural talent for balancing the spiritual and material planes.
You need to cultivate courage and stamina. Courage is a choice. You need to decide to be brave in the face of fear. A balanced 8 is among the most powerful and satisfying of numbers. It is the spirit of the true survivor, able to bounce back and achieve a greater victory.
Emily, your Heart's Desire number is 1
Your overpowering need is to be independent and to direct your own life according to what you believe. Your dream is to become the leader of whatever field you enter. Whether it is in business, community, or in your general area of expertise, you are driven to be the reigning figure. You have the courage and the confidence to lead others. You believe firmly that your judgment is preeminent over all others. This gives you the confidence to make bold decisions and carry them out, even when other lives are greatly affected by what you do. You rarely look back once you have decided.
You possess intelligence and wit. You are keenly insightful and are good at evaluating the abilities of others. You are supremely individualistic. In your manner and dress, you like to project your own unique persona. Consequently, you don't mind being controversial, and can even enjoy the attention and impact you have made on your surroundings.
You dislike routines, or anything that limits your freedom and independence. Whenever you commit to something you truly love, you are tenacious in your ability to endure difficulties and overcome obstacles. You are highly responsible; you hate passing the buck. You possess remarkable willpower and a strong drive to succeed. You are always looking for innovative ways of doing things.
Because you seek to be the boss in any endeavor, you tend to dominate others. If you are not careful, especially in dealing with your subordinates and family, you may become ruthless in your decisions and behavior. You can also fall victim to impatience and intolerance, particularly if you grow conceited or superior.
You are the pioneer and the ground-breaker. You love the foreground, the hot-seat of responsibility. You have all the talents to succeed. If you maintain balance in your life, allowing others full expression of their thoughts and abilities, you will easily rise to the top of your chosen field and realize your ambitions.
Compatibility of the Heart's Desire number is very important in a relationship. Few relationships last beyond the initial stage if these numbers are not harmonious.
John and Emily, your Heart's Desire Compatibility is 8 and 1
Your respective numbers make you both strong-willed and somewhat stubborn people. It could often feel like there are two captains on your ship, whose conflicting viewpoints can lead to discomfort at best or explosive arguments at worst. A willingness to compromise is extremely important for your relationship.
You both have good business instincts, which could result in successful shared endeavors (although John most likely has the greatest talent for managing financial affairs). Should you decide to work together, make sure to keep your responsibilities separated to avoid potential conflict. Whether in business or your personal life, you will need to have faith in each other's abilities and respect your independence. With both of you preferring to do things your own way, this may not be an easy task. Neither of you easily allow the other to dominate, nor do you feel comfortable as the other's subordinate. Keep in mind John has a need to see material results and reward, while Emily is more interested in the satisfaction that comes from a job well done.
The fact that you are both quite sensitive behind your strong, self-reliant facade makes you vulnerable to being hurt by insensitive comments and arguments. Your keywords for a successful relationship are communication and compromise.
Although you probably take different approaches at times, you also have much in common; the 1 and the 8 are considered very compatible numbers. One positive aspect is your love of shared experiences. If you can be sensitive to the needs of your partner and communicate openly, you should be able to enjoy a rewarding relationship sharing the many interests you have in common.
The consonants of your full name at birth are the foundation of your Personality number, which is a little like a narrow entrance hall to the great room that is your true nature. It's the outer layer of your personality, the part you feel comfortable sharing. With time and trust, you invite others into the deeper aspects of your nature.
Your Personality number serves as a censoring device in terms of what you send out, as well as whom and what you allow to approach. For this reason, your Personality is usually narrower and more protective in its definition than the real you. It also gives an indication of how others perceive you.
John, your Personality number is 9
You have an impressive and aristocratic bearing. No matter how tall you are, you appear noble and upright. You are very much in control of the image you send out to others. Many actors, dancers, and other performers have a 9 Personality Number.
You are elegant, graceful, and charismatic. Many admire you. You have the kind of stature that pulls people to you or repels them intensely. Some are jealous of you and may seek to belittle you. You may encourage this to some extent by the amount of arrogance you radiate. This is a caution for all 9 Personalities -- they are sometimes aloof and hold themselves above the world. Your challenge is to come down to earth with your fellow man.
Conversely, you have a great compassion for humanity and want to dedicate yourself to improving the lot of others. You are better when dealing with the trials of the many than the trouble of a single person. You are more capable of working on the grand scale, addressing the needs of society, than on a one-to-one basis.
You are kind and sympathetic, helpful and compassionate. Behind the controlled and calm facade, you are sensitive, vulnerable and emotional.
You have excellent taste. There is a good deal of artistic talent in you that shows in your home environment and your clothing. You tend to see yourself as a guardian of society, a benevolent leader, guiding and directing your community toward a better world.
Emily, your Personality number is 3
Many men with a 3 Personality are usually handsome; women often strikingly beautiful. Your vibration is full of life. You are uplifting, inspiring, and charming. You are a fun person to be around. Your wit and sparkling personality make you the life of a party. You are extroverted and optimistic. You appreciate fine clothing and jewelry and enjoy dressing up a bit. You like glamour and are sought after by the opposite sex. You are a romantic. You fall in and out of love rather quickly. You are affectionate and giving.
Do not let your charm be an incentive to play too much. Work at developing deep and lasting relationships. You have to avoid scattering your attention for popularity. You can be flippant about commitments and may dramatize or exaggerate. Your wit can cause you to rely too much on superficial, humorous conversation.
You have a distinct "lucky streak" that attracts many opportunities throughout your life. You also have a knack of promoting yourself as well as inspiring others. When backed up by hard work and self-disciple, these qualities almost ensure your success.
Your Personality is the first aspect people notice when you first meet. Very few relationships have a chance to progress if their Personality numbers are not compatible.
John and Emily, your Personality Compatibility is 9 and 3
John and Emily, this aspect of the chart reflects excellent compatibility. The 3 and the 9 have the potential to form a strong bond, one that lasts for an exceptionally long time - if not forever. They represent archetypes that are almost mythical in their romantic alliance. Many stories of patience and self-sacrifice could be told about this union. What makes this so surprising is the fact that your compatibility is possible even though both numbers are considered self-centered, even egocentric at times.
Your numbers indicate you both have powerful imaginations and intense inner lives. This makes you highly creative, albeit in vastly different ways. Emily (the 3) has a unique, somewhat offbeat originality, and is comfortable with life's unexpected turns and events. John likes to manipulate the environment until everything is harmonious; they have the talent to combine colors and materials to create beauty in a disciplined manner. Emily appreciates the way John seems to control events and surroundings and John envies the easy manner that Emily accepts and takes advantage of whatever life serves up. This brings balance to your relationship.
Emily, your 3 in this part of the chart is often compared to the sun: you are warm, inspiring, and uplifting to all. John, your number 9 is the most idealistic and self-sacrificing number. Like the 3, it offers love freely and generously - although the 9 tends to focus on humanitarian concerns. Both are loving, giving, and worldly numbers (who never forget they are at the center of whatever they offer).
Vying for the same limelight could create conflict - a little like politicians in an election run-off. Even if, privately, they respect and like one another, they compete for attention (even slinging mud if they feel it is justified). Fortunately, this is pretty much the only area where the 3 and 9 combination might encounter problems. Avoid competition and invest in the caring, romantic, life-long unity that (otherwise) comes naturally to both of you.